How can you tell you found the right person?

Love is such a wonderful thing that, when shared by two people, the feelings become mutual and the gratifications achieved. All of these are established during the start of dating.

Dating becomes the primary selection ground for people who wish to end up with somebody they can grow old with. It provides them the means to find the right person whom they can share their sentiments, their feelings, problems, etc.

Normally, the stages of dating illustrate continuous experiences. As the couple proceeds to the next level, they get to know another chapter in their mate’s life.

However, even if it seems that two people are already mutual with regards to their feelings, there are instances that one of them would ask if their mate is the right person for them. They can feel that they are happy as of the moment. But when the concept of finding the right person sinks in a lot of questions take place.

No one can be sure if his or her mate is the right person unless he or she will make extra effort to analyze the situation and the person he or she is currently involved with. Even if everything seems to be in perfect condition and that dates are always pleasurable and gratifying.

So, for people who wish to know if the person they are dating right now is the right person or if what they are doing is right or wrong, here are some tips on how to identify the real score of the person they are dealing with.

1. It would be better for an individual to assess his or her feelings about the other person.

In order to know if an individual has already found the right person, it is best to assess their feelings towards the other person.

For example, an individual should try to identify the other person’s qualities. These qualities that can usually be seen daily within the person and it would mean that these are the same qualities that the concerned individual has to deal with.

Hence, it would be better to assess if the concerned individual likes what he or she is seeing or if they can tolerate the personality of the other person.

In the event that the other person has some qualities that are not that desirable, it would be better for the individual to be sure of their feelings about the unlikely behavior. If they think that they can withstand and endure those things even if it will not change, chances are they have found the right person.

The other person may not literally be righteous but the fact that the concerned individual can accept whomever the other person is, then, it must be love.

2. If the concerned person will get to accept the other person’s faults or shortcomings not because of some hopes that someday he or she will change, then it must be the right person.

One should realize that accepting somebody should never be conditional. This means that when a person accepts someone who has qualities not included in his or her concept of an ideal mate, he or she should not pose some conditions or expects something regarding future changes.

Because if this is the basis of acceptance, chances are the concerned individual will only be disappointed in the future and will only make matters worse.

3. If there are no obstacles that will in time kill the flame of love, then it must be the right person.

If in the event that an individual finds somebody and they feel that the relationship is finally the real thing, it would still be better to assess if there will be no more impediments that would curb the growth of a wonderful relationship.

This simply means that the person should be sure that there will be no elements or factors that will trigger some problems on their relationship in the future like vices, addiction, family problems, previous relationships, etc.

If the coast is clear, then the concerned person had finally found his or her right mate and that in time the relationship will flourish and be successful.

All of these things are boiled down to the fact that love is not 100% perfect. People should realize that there are no such things as perfect people. As humans, people are susceptible to mistakes, imperfections, flaws, and whatever weaknesses man is destined to entail in his or her personality.

So, the best thing to use when identifying the right person is careful analysis of the individual as a whole and not just the physical attributes where substantial attraction is usually based on.

How fire ants form towers more than 30 ants high.

Fire ants may not be cute or cuddly, but they have some pretty cool tricks. They can form rafts
to survive floods, and researchers have now figured out how they form towers to escape danger or surmount obstacles.

The ants don’t consciously decide to throw themselves on top one another to build towers. Rather, it takes a lot of trial and error, with the ants following certain basic rules. First, they wander around without direction until they come to an empty space in a group. Then they position and brace themselves to support other ants clambering over them. They do this horizontally to form rafts, and vertically to form towers. The towers can be more than 30 ants high, and end up looking a bit like the Eiffel Tower—with a wide base that evenly distributes weight.

Supporting other ants is no problem for these insects. “We found that ants can withstand 750 times their body weight without injury, but they seem to be most comfortable supporting three ants on their backs,” said report coauthor Craig Tovey, a professor at the Georgia Institute of Technology, ina release. “Any more than three and they’ll simply give up, break their holds and walk away.”
Time lapse footage of the towers show they’re not static formations. After feeding ants radioactive food, the researchers watched them build a tower in an X-ray machine to better understand the inner workings of the living structures. They found the tower is actually perpetually sinking, and when ants slide to the bottom, they make their way out from under the pile through tunnels among the ants in the base. Then they head back up the tower again build some more. “The ants are circulating like a water fountain, in reverse,” Tovey told Nature.

They may be tiny, but fire ant engineering may offer humans some insights, such as for using swarms of tiny robots to build things.

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What life actually was like for a real pirate.

In between bouts of pirate-talk and rocking out to Alestorm (or Lazy Town, whichever you prefer), you may have wondered what life would’ve been like if you actually were a pirate. As it turns out, your life on the seas would’ve been drastically different from the one seen in movies like Treasure Island and Pirates of the Caribbean. Here’s how your life would’ve truly gone, ye scurvy dog.

You were truly brutal and ruthless

When you think of pirate brutality, you probably run with sword fights, plank-walking, and the Boo Box. But the truth is, if you wanted to be a successful pirate, you needed to be brutal, ruthless, merciless, and violent beyond even the goriest of horror films.

The famed pirate Blackbeard was known for hacking off women’s fingers if they wouldn’t give up their rings. Instead of thin, elegant swords, most pirates would prefer to go after each other with axes and thick cutlasses, hacking at their opponents like they were trees. And if you really irked them, prepare to pay painfully — one story speaks of a pirate trying to get information about nearby treasure from a couple of captives. He tortured them by tying each to a tree. He then carved out one of their hearts, and forced the other victim to eat it. If Johnny Depp wants to add a little something to his character for Pirates 6, here’s a fine start.

You probably wore an eyepatch

No pirate costume is complete without an eyepatch. It shows that you’re hardcore and been through some stuff, like a hook to the eyeball. And unlike some other pirate stereotypes, there’s actually truth to this one. Many pirates did indeed wear eyepatches, but they didn’t do so for fashion’s sake, or to hide a terrible wound. They actually had far more mundane, practical motives, like navigating in the dark.

A smart pirate would wear a patch over one eye, so it was constantly adjusted to darkness. If Soggybottom Jack found himself in pitch black and needed good vision fast, all he’d need to do is switch the patch to the other eye. That way, one eye’s immediately ready to fight in the dark, while the other doesn’t need to readjust at all.

In a way, an eyepatch is the best of both worlds. It’s cool looking, shows that you’re tough as nails, and that you’re dreadfully smart to boot. No smart pirate would dare tangle with one possessing such a total package.

Your ship was uncomfortable and disgusting

Don’t think for a second you would have been comfortable on your ship. Movies and TV portray the pirate life as one big party, which was kinda true, except the party was run by the worst, most disorganized, most disgusting frat ever. Yes, life on a pirate ship was shockingly terrible.

The problems grew worse with food and drink. The lack of refrigeration meant food like meat and vegetables would spoil extremely fast. Beans and flour could rapidly get moldy too, because ship conditions were perpetually wet. And even storing fresh water was hard, due to the possibility of algae scum forming in it.

Their only solution most of the time was to eat terrible food like hardtack: super-hard, dry bread that was barely edible and had weevils crawling in it half the time. As for their liquid solution: they just got stinking drunk off of rum. Alcohol didn’t spoil, so they typically drank that in place of water. They weren’t getting drunk because “yo ho ho it’s a pirate’s life for them” — they did it because it was either that or death from dehydration.

You didn’t bury your treasure, but spent it fast

Don’t think all this talk of sugar and silk being a pirate’s preferred treasure means they rejected riches. On the contrary, if they found gold, silver, or anything else valuable, they took all they could carry. But all this talk of buried treasure hidden here and there is almost complete bunk. And the idea of treasure maps promising gold if you just follow the X? That’s actual complete bunk.

If you think about it, this was the only way to survive as a pirate. The scurvy sea-outlaw life carried the risk of death behind every wave, so it made absolutely no sense to bury your booty and go back for it later. Chances were good there’d likely be no later. And if you didn’t use your money to buy what you needed to survive, there’d definitely be no later.

So now you know — if some shyster tries to sell you a map to Blackbeard’s lost treasure, walk away, because it’s a scam. If you truly want to track down Blackbeard’s money, go to Port Royal and find wherever they keep the booze. You’re now as close as you’ll ever get.

You probably had a pet, maybe a parrot

Some pirate stereotypes are true, like the parrot thing. While not every captain came equipped with a squawking bird on his shoulder, a good chunk of them did, but not purely for aesthetic, look-at-me-I’m-a-pirate reasons. Like everything else a real pirate did, owning a parrot was more practical than anything else.

Dogs were out of the question, as they were more of a aristocratic thing at the time. Cats were okay, because they were small and could catch mice, but good luck getting the typical cat anywhere near a wet ship surrounded by water. Plus, pirates were exotic and wanted cool, exotic pets too.

Some delightfully went with pet monkeys, but most preferred parrots. They didn’t eat a lot, you could easily store what they did eat, you could talk to them, and when you got sick of them (or simply needed the money), they fetched a pretty penny on the black market.

That’s right, in addition to everything else you’re learning today, now you know there was once a black market parrot trade — and that there still is one today.

You might have been working for the government

To many of us, the appeal of being a pirate is that you’re an outlaw. You have no bosses, no CEOs, no shareholders — as long as you keep plundering, you can get as rich as you want. It’s like freelancing, except with significantly more scurvy and stabbing.

But if a pirate was good enough at their job, legitimate and supposedly law-abiding governments might actually hire them to do their dirty work. Over the course of the “Golden Age” of piracy — a period around the 1600s and 1700s where no sailor was safe from murderous, looting pirates — pirates had become scary good at what they did. So, in a case of “if you can’t beat ’em, make ’em join you,” some governments would actually hire these career criminals as privateers, charging them with ransacking other nations, attacking enemy ships … basically, they were now legal hitmen.

Captain Henry Morgan (yes, the rum guy) was a particularly excellent privateer, attacking Spanish posts throughout the Americas and becoming one of the New World’s first truly feared characters. You know you’re good at being bad when the most impressive bad stuff you did was at the paid behest of the government.

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